MYTH #4: A birth parent will eventually forget about the child. If you make an adoption plan for your child, you will never forget not want to forget about your child. What you will want is to continue with your life and not be crippled emotionally by your loss. You will want to remember your pregnancy, the birth, and those precious hours and/or days shared with your child in the hospital. In your remembering, you want to feel that you made the most loving, mature and unselfish decision you could possibly have made for your child, given your circumstances. For you to remember your child in a positive way, also allow yourself time to grieve. You will have conflicting emotions. It will hurt to say goodbye to your child. Such feelings are normal and will lessen over time. You will find great comfort in knowing what a wonderful, stable, and nourishing environment you have chosen for your child. Because of hormonal changes in the body, most women experience post-partum depression or "baby blues." This, too, is normal. Share your feelings with family, friends, doctor, advisor, and they will be able to support you through this process comfortably. Find people who you can talk openly about the adoption and will support you emotionally; covering up those emotions will be harmful in the long run. If you want to spend time with your child in the hospital, do so. If, however, you do not wish to see your child, this wish will be respected. Realize that your body has gone through a tremendous experience and give yourself time to heal. You may be physically and emotionally worn out.